it seems like every other lobby i try to join fails catastrophically. usually when it fails it freezes in place completely unresponsive to attempts to escape what clearly isn't going to happen. if i'm lucky i can ctrl+shift+esc out of it maybe even get crtl+alt+delete to work but a lot of the time i have to hard stop my computer in order to break the freeze. i'm currently running with 4 gigs of ram which i know is my primary problem in this, but something i think we all would like to see happen that would help in this problem is to add a section to the lobby selection screen that shows the number of planets that are in that game. i know most games with 4 planets or below will run just fine for me. and from my experience in lobbies with six planets i know it will run super slow and there is a very rare chance i will actually be able to start those games. the only other explanation can have for these dead stop loading lobbies is that the game has started before i actually join or it fills before i actually join. either way it the lobby system needs some work from what i can tell.
I have this as well. Except, usually mine goes frozen for like a minute and a half, and then I successfully join a lobby. Sometimes I just straight up join the lobby immediately. I don't get why the rest do the minute-and-a-half freeze.