So the only way I seem to be able to fight is sideways. Discerning my units from those on the ground is really hard. A thought is that when you back up from the planet far enough the ground unit emblems fade in color and your space based assets stay the same shade or you create a key so that I can only select space units.
I recommend you to set both "ORBITAL SHELL" and "SHOW TERRESTRIAL" to "RANGE DEPENDENT". It's will help you a lot with control of orbitals. At least it's help me a lot.