loosing best friend over girl (btw, totally fixed, scroll down a little)

i am gonna be frank ... he pushed you twice and even punched you in the face ?....

if i would have been in your position

F U C K that guy ... seriously ... i wouldn't care if he was drunk ... he friggin punched you ...
you made a mistake .. ok happens .. but one just doesnt go and punch someone in the face especialy in front of other people ...


had a friend i hanged around with for half of my life
i considered him a good friend before ... but then he started to sort of ignore me even go as far as leaving me in his home and went to his other friends saying he would come back but left me for hours ... after some initial grief i decided to suck it up and give it another try ... so asked him to go watch live football in a stadium ... he agreed ... but then didnt show up .. no call no reason no nothing ...
i didnt do anything with him for like 3 years after that till we talked a bit he apologised and we just rather occacionaly did something over the years to were i considered him just a friend ... but then last year when i asked him to come out meet some friends that he knew well too watch a footballmatch he just left before my other friends came and again without saying any word before i actualy called him ...
so yea finaly after growing tired of his actions i dropped him as i just couldn't trust him anymore ... yea no girl was involved in this story but there are many ways to be and/or feel humiliated ...


as for the guy who punched you? i rather would have him to call you as his action was more severe ...

that you guys managed to clear things up is good ...
but honestly i would be now more skeptical about him ...

I think you need to Re read a bit. I think he says something like if he was to stay there he may get punched. Haha maybe I should re read it too. Yeah that's what it was.

Anyhows. 2 month update? Op better deliver.

? uh but I did update? https://forums.uberent.com/threads/loosing-best-friend-over-girl.65929/#post-1033010

by now we're seeing each other regularly again and the girl is long forgetten for the both of us.

He's getting into a serious relationship with a girl he's going to get a contryside house with. ...Eventually (he into the ecologist and indipendent movement, so he's persuaded he can do it without money, find a parsel of land noone will bug him for if he moves in on and build the house himself.)

I dunno too much about that, I'd love if that were true but in this day and age... nothing isn't "owned" nothing (material) doesn't have a price tag.

Right now I'm just happy he's still in toulouse where I can see him easy. (though I have direct concurence with his new girlfriend to be able to see him)

and yeah absolutely no punching was involved.

Just to clarify:

You go out to a club with your best mate and some other people, including this girl.
You witness your best mate trying to hit on this girl, but to no avail (she's not interested).
Same girl comes up to you and you make out (woo!), she says yes to your proposition of going home together.
You try and hug your mate on your way out and he pushes you violently (causing you to knock into two other people)
You instantly deduce he is in some kind of relationship with the girl.
He says he's in a free/open relationship with her.
You decide to go home with her anyway.

I agree with the whole 'you don't mess with your friends' girls' thing, but your mate complicated it by saying it was an open relationship. Genuine mistake though, and he should not have shoved you violently. I'd have taken that pretty hard, he could have explained the situation to you instead of getting physical. Clearly the girl was cool with it (probably cos it IS an open relationship). In which case he should not have gotten jealous and violent). Clearly he was drunk!

My best friend is polyamorous and wrote an interesting article on the subject (to save himself having to explain his polyamory to all his mates), gonna link it since its on topic and I find it a really interesting essay: http://pegasus.pimpninjas.org/on polyamory

If guess being in an open relationship with a girl but still expecting your mates to not get with her is reasonable.. but still, he could have done you the courtesy of saying "hey, I'm banging this girl in a no-strings way" as you walked to the club...! Would have saved an awkward situation.

Thanks the for the updates anyway, glad things resolved themselves

np

yeah, the thing is he though I knew, he was dead certain he'd told me he was going out with her before going to the club, I guess that's the alcohol factoring in once again there.

Oh! Well that does put it in a new light, heh. Still, at least it ended well, and you got to learn an important lesson without any fallout damage!

yeah, at first I was really panicked because I though there would be permanent damage. But since then I've been comforted in the fact that there is no damage at all. very happy.

well, my realationships always go swimmingly.

Spoiler

As in they swim right out the window.

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Before they even started.