Even if I wasn't trans and paranoid of facial hair, I just generally down grow it that much. So NONE. Last time I saw EmBox he had a pretty necky beard though
Yeah, once you've gotten it smooth once it's not hard to shave afterwards. If you let it get out of control though, bleeeh... I've never tried the hair creams or anything though, but I've heard a bit about them before.
They're expensive, but worth it in the long one. I got a nice one for about eighty US dollars. The thing that isn't too good about them and even waxxing is that you can't do it instantly- like.. it's hard to catch the hairs without letting them grow a bit, which is sort of counter intuitive considering the goal. They're really great if you want to go out for a week on vacation and don't want to deal with shaving.
If it goes on/past your adam's apple, sorry. You got a neckbeard, man. I keep an inch / 1.5" neutral zone between my beard and my adam's apple. Just to be safe.
Let it grow where it will. I have a beard so I don't have to shave. I don't want to spend more time sculpting it like topiary than I would keeping clean shaven. Only time it gets trimmed is when I start being mistaken for a hobo.